What’s Chemistry Got to Do With It?

Do you remember the moment you knew you were in love? You looked into your partner's eyes and for a moment, everything was perfect. There was nothing in your relationship to find fault with your mate was beautiful, funny, intelligent, there was no other man or woman in the world that you could imagine being with. 

The beginning of a relationship is infused with chemicals so powerful, that the brain scan of a person who is in love looks similar to that of someone who is clinically insane. Love does that, according to scientists, being "in love" releases chemicals that are so powerful every ounce of reason is lost during those initial stages of romance. Our brains start to release oxytocin, which is like a happy chemical, that allows us grow more sensitive to pheromones from our significant others. Love itself or being in love, helps create the bond between people but many scientists believe that being in love is somewhat of a cruel joke, mainly caused by hormones, dopamine, oxytocin and other brain chemicals. According to science, these chemicals are designed to get people together to procreate, people literally become addicted to 'love'.

This addiction to 'love' would probably have a definite affect on relationship, marriage, and other traditional institutions in society. I think marriage would be hit the hardest from this new scientific view on relationships. Marriage would have no cultural relevance. If marriage were abolished, procreation would be casual and not be taken seriously, and there would no longer be a social stigma to being single.

I believe that science does play a role in establishing physical connections, but love and relationships are mostly based on emotion and chemistry. Love and even relationships, cannot exist without chemistry. Real chemistry consists of strong physical attraction and attraction to mannerisms, tone of voice, the ability to have comfortable and fulfilling conversations, that can bring the two people closer together emotionally. We can use scientific approaches to romance but without chemistry and passion, those in the relationships will not be motivated to do all the hard work needed to nurture that relationship.