Love, Home Sapien Style

Historically monogamy is a new thing for humans. Humans are, and always will be evolved animals. The human male is designed to be able to impregnate many, and his sexual urges and drives are geared toward that goal. However, studies have shown that women also have the desire and drive to mate with more than one person as the drive is to find the most acceptable gene donor and protector or provider for their offspring. By sampling a large cross-section of their potential mates the human female is "filtering out" the less desirable to the more desirable who shows the strongest of the traits she is attempting to have passed to her offspring. Contrary to the teachings of modern monogamous relationships, humans were not meant to be monogamous, we were meant to use selective process for breeding based upon genetic variables which each is attracted to. The "love" factor is an emotional response which has been attached to the sexual nature in an effort to make humans into something they were never meant to be. As can be evidenced in the fact that polyamorous relationships and marriages are just as healthy and loving as are monogamous ones. 

Human Beings are probably more biologically configured for polygamy. Considering that women typically ovulate about once a month, and typically reach infertility in what we consider to be "middle-aged," while men continuously "produce" sperm throughout their lives.“The human mind was designed for the purpose of transmitting genes to the next generation; feelings of lust, no less that the sex organs, are here because they aided reproduction directly” (Wright 280). The benefit of polygamy, would be an increase of chance in spreading ones genes. According to evolutionary psychologists, polygamy can be determined by weighing of the males testicles. By looking at the great apes our nearest cousin, there seems to be a direct relationship between sexual promiscuity and the size of male sexual organs. Chimps are very promiscuous and 'competition is fierce', and their organs are very big compared to their body size. Gorillas on the other hand have very small genitals in comparison, leaving human beings somewhere in the middle.

Overall humans are not a monogamous species. It's only been the past several thousand years we've tried to become one. Monogamy was just not in the best interest of survival of our species and therefore we really are not hardwired for it. Men are programmed to impregnant as many women as possible, women to be a little more monogamous, but, highly superficial. They are designed to go for bread winners of the bunch, and all of this is about biology, designed to keep the human line going. However, many people today do maintain monogamy, whether it's for personal beliefs or conforming to current cultural beliefs.